Many men are reticent to talk about their feelings; especially thoughts around intimacy.
James conveys the idea that only when we submit to God will the devil "flee from you" as we are then committed to God ...
Have I not commanded you? Be strong and courageous. Do not be frightened, and do not be dismayed, for the Lord your God is ...
Be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, as God in Christ forgave you.